TOPS AND BOTTOMS

 TOP OR BOTTOM?

I think it would be prudent to define what a TOP and BOTTOM is.  Most, if not all, gay men know what the actions of topping and a bottoming are, but in my research has shown, unscientific as it may be, there are varying degrees in these two broad categories.  We hear and read it everywhere, “Are you a top, bottom or versatile?”  I suppose it is a valid query for lesbians, it is far more profound for gay men.

Straights do not have worry about who does the penetrating.  Sure, there are situations where she may strap one on and he may submit but I doubt this occurs on the first date.  However, for gay men, an incorrect assumption can result in an uncomfortable and awkward sexual encounter, or worse, two very unfulfilled and unsatisfied men.

There are gay men who do not want anything to do with assholes.  These men find touching or having their asshole touched repulsive.  The probable reason for this aversion is cultural, but some might have Freudian issues with the anal opening.  That is their problem.  I am not going to explore those issues.  Whatever the rationale for avoiding the rectum, it is their loss.

Top and Bottom men come all sizes, shapes, colors, and attitudes.  A simple visual scan can result in an incorrect assumption.  It would be folly to assume that the less than macho man is going to lift his legs.  You could find yourself in a very uncomfortable position, literally.  Conversely, thinking the big butch man with bulging muscles isn’t giving itall the jeezuss could result in a huge disappointment, I know.  You might find yourself going home empty, if you catch my drift.

The spectrum of human sexuality is broad.  The gay male spectrum is no different.  Where do you fall on this simplified scale?

Let us start from the bottom up:

THE POWER BOTTOM:

There is nothing passive or submissive about being fucked.  We open the gates; we let you in.  We are active and seek our own gratification while giving our Tops pleasure.

Watch this video clip and tell me who is passive or submissive.  Who could say the Bottom here is passive, I’d say he is taking the initiative.

A Power Bottom is, indeed, an unusual man.  He has no desire to fuck.  He considers a man-cunt his primary sexual organ.  His penis is important but not the focus of his pleasure.  He has learned the secret few men learn, true ecstasy “cums” from within. He knows this secret cannot be taught.  Relatively few men discover, understand, and utilize the power and enjoyment and the mystery of being a Power Bottom.  In addition, he never tires; he can take it as long as his Top can give it.  He on occasion, it may take more than one Top-man to finish a Power Bottom off properly.

A Power Bottom sees no contradiction in being a man and sitting on dick.  In fact, he judges his own masculinity by how well and hard he takes his lover’s cock.  For him, the highway to heaven is on another man’s cock.  He also knows that to other men, the way to heaven is in his ass.

He is never passive.  On he contrary, the Power Bottom man is both assertive and aggressive.  Unlike a bottom who may wait to be approached, the Power Bottom will actively pursue his target.  He makes things happen for himself and more importantly for his chosen conquest.  The Power Bottom, even on an off night, never disappoints.

This type of man appreciates and understands his own masculinity.  He does not feel threatened, belittled, or feminized by another man’s cock in his ass.  On the contrary, he defines his masculinity by how well he satisfies his sexual partners.  The true Power Bottom understands masculinity in all its permutations.  He does not want, nor will accept wimpy fucks.  He is a man and treats his lovers’ as such.  He demands his lovers treat him and fuck has as a man.  Most self-proclaimed Power bottoms tend to be loyal and prefer to be with one man.  However, we will gladly accommodate more. 

When a Power Bottom encounters a DRILL MASTER who can satisfy him, he will be very faithful and always ready to perform.  Lucky is the Top who finds a true Power Bottom.  

Most Power Bottoms are highly sexual men.  Just as they are aware of their own masculinity, they appreciate and honor their Tops masculinity as well.  He will tirelessly suck their lovers’ cocks, balls, tits, and any other body part.  A Power Bottom can bring a top to the brink of ecstasy only to abruptly stop.  He will relax his Top and control both their orgasms.  A Power bottom will do this until the Top can no longer resist and begins to drill his ass, the purpose of the sexual taunting.  This is the Power Bottom’s true skills are come to light.

A Power Bottom, as I said, is not passive.  He is not content to lie there and let the top do all the work.  NO, he will control to speed, rhythm and indeed the depth of strokes.  He will initiate position changes but will eagerly oblige any requests.  He will know when his partner is close and slow down.  He will tell his lover it is to prolong his pleasure, but the truth is, the Power bottom is not yet done with his Top’s cock.

When a POWER BOTTOM meets a TOTAL-TOP, the pairing is exciting and mutually satisfying.  Each will attempt to bring the other to ever-higher levels of gratification.  The Power Bottom’s hole will always crave his Total Top’s cock.  He will make the Top succumb to his insatiable needs.  

From my experience, this desire doesn’t fade with time.  Familiarity with his Top’s cock makes him want and need it more, neither will ever resist t he other’s advances.  This is the match made in sexual heaven.

THE TOTAL BOTTOM:

Now we come to the TOTAL BOTTOM.  

The Total Bottom enjoys being fucked but lacks the specialized skill-set and passion possessed by the Power Bottom.  This man prefers to be fucked.  He doesn’t seek to insert his cock into anything except his lover’s mouth.  This guy is adamant about being penetrated.  Usually a Total Bottom guy will be very upfront about his sexual preference, much like the Top, he will advertise his preference.  Neither wishes to be disappointed.  He can, if necessary be the top, but he will not perform robustly.  It is a matter of courtesy for the Total Bottom.

Do not allow appearances or mannerisms to misguide you.  Some Total Bottoms are quite masculine in action and appearance.  The Total Bottom is usually very good at pleasing his Top.  Again, like the Top Man, the major drawback is the he better be one hot fuck.  He does not have any others tricks in his bag.

THE MOSTLY BOTTOM:

The Mostly Bottom is just that.  He prefers to be fucked but believes turn about is fair play.  In my past, before graduating to Power Bottom status, I had encounters with such guys.  He can be lots of fun but doesn’t really go for the gusto when topping.  His heart isn’t in it.  However, he wishes to satisfy his lover hoping that he can lift his legs and throw open the paradise gates. 

A good match for a Mostly Bottom is the Mostly Top. 

The VERSATILE MAN:

Next, we come to the VERSATILE MAN.  Ah, the most common gay man, at least according to personal ads and gay chat rooms.  I honestly think he enjoys fucking and being fucked.  One might believe this man is truly democratic, but he just likes sex with men and will take it anyway he can.  I would think this type of gay man prefers one or the other, but truly, he says he enjoys both topping and bottoming.  In my experience, it is a rare man who excels at both, but I give him an “A” for effort.

THE MOSTLY TOP:

There is the Mostly Top.  As the title suggests, he prefers to be to be the giver but will occasionally acquiesce and lift his legs to allow another man’s cock to enter his man-pussy.  

As mentioned earlier there are MOSTLY BOTTOMS who prefer being fucked.  Many of these men genuinely enjoy the opposite of their stated preference.  Some switch to placate or satisfy his partner, a very unselfish attitude.

While he will allow himself to be fucked, it won’t be with too much enthusiasm.

THE TOP MAN:

The Top Man is always looking for a good Bottom.  However if he should end up with a Mostly Top or Mostly Bottom be may be willing to allow himself to get fucked.  It is going to be a hard sell to get the Top Man to spread his cheeks, but with a lot of rimming, anything can happen.

He doesn’t really enjoy being the receiver of anal intercourse, but he also understands a man’s need to penetrate.  So, he might, every now and gain, allow himself to get fucked.  He will be willing and satisfying but don’t expect an overly enthusiastic partner.

DRILL MASTER:

Some guys are a DRILL MASTERS.  These men view their anus as “one way, “exit only,” and a Bottoms as a “Come in, we’re open” sign.  

God bless them, lord knows they are needed.  Some have tried being fucked and for whatever reason dislike it.  Others claim to be anal virgins.  They have no desire to be anally probed but they enjoy playing and fucking other men’s asses.  

Like Power Bottoms, there is no contradiction with a Drill Master’s sexuality.  He is 100 percent gay.  He likes to be the penetrator, but with other men.  He knows a man can please him so much better than a woman.

I love DRILL MASTERS.  They are usually the finest fucks around; never selfish.  The Drill Master's skills compliment the Power Bottom's perfectly.  A good Drill Master man will understand how a man’s body operates and will do everything possible to pleasure his Power Bottom with his cock.  

The best Drill Masters are observant and responsive to their Bottoms.  They are expert at hitting all the right spots.  Real Drill Masters understand a Bottom is more than just a wet hole.  A truly extraordinary Drill Master will delay his satisfaction until he knows his partner had reached has fucking nirvana.  He can even time his own orgasm to his partner’s so they both collapse in exhaustion and ecstasy.

That is my view of the gay male world.  Simplistic for sure, but very handy.  All are valid and certainly necessary.  Every one of these categories is important.

I hope I have imparted a little knowledge.

Miguel

The questions where do you fall on this scale:

1: POWER BOTTOM

2: TOTAL BOTTOM

3: MOSTLY BOTTOM
4: VERSATILE

5: MOSTLY TOP

6: TOP MAN

7: DRILL MASTER